The New Year's "Resolution." I've pretty much given up on that concept. I've tried the "lose weight" thing, the "yell less" angle -- nothings ever really changed because I resolved to do it on January 1. That day just doesn't feel any different to me than the one before or after it. (Plus, this year I beat the odds and lost 13 pounds before Christmas, so I didn't hate myself for gaining two!)
However, I do still like the self or life improvement idea, but more along the lines of improving the lives of others. Wouldn't it be really satisfying to know that a change you made was better for someone you love? Specifically within my own little family of four.
The idea started after a conversation with my son about school starting again this week. He's dreading it, and I know a big part of that is based on him still not feeling like he fits in there on some level, after having transferred there four months ago. I tried talking to him about the things he could do differently, but a seven year old doesn't seem to see things the way I do at 33, and my suggestions weren't much appreciated. That's when it hit me that I have to do what I can as his mom and figure out what's in my control. I asked him if he liked the idea of a play date with anyone in his class, and he perked right up. Yes, he loved that idea, and had the names of two boys right off the bat.
Resolution # 1 -- do what I can to help my son feel accepted and wanted in his new school from the mom end.
Then this morning I was doing some blog reading, and wouldn't you know I'd find something unexpected. Kimba re-posted something from last April that I'd never seen before, and without even knowing I was looking for it, I found another resolution. Here are the verses she shared, and I think you'll see where this is going right away.
Proverbs 21:9 - Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:19 - Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.
Proverbs 27:15 - A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day.
I'm not even going to bother trying to argue that I'm not quarrelsome or ill-tempered sometimes. I'll even add that I've gotten a little bossy here and there, and I think unhelpful sums me up, too. Is that who I want to be?
Resolution #2 - be less of those things, and be someone my husband likes having around!
Oh, and eat less and yell less, of course.