Tuesday, January 6, 2009


The New Year's "Resolution." I've pretty much given up on that concept. I've tried the "lose weight" thing, the "yell less" angle -- nothings ever really changed because I resolved to do it on January 1. That day just doesn't feel any different to me than the one before or after it. (Plus, this year I beat the odds and lost 13 pounds before Christmas, so I didn't hate myself for gaining two!)

However, I do still like the self or life improvement idea, but more along the lines of improving the lives of others. Wouldn't it be really satisfying to know that a change you made was better for someone you love? Specifically within my own little family of four.

The idea started after a conversation with my son about school starting again this week. He's dreading it, and I know a big part of that is based on him still not feeling like he fits in there on some level, after having transferred there four months ago. I tried talking to him about the things he could do differently, but a seven year old doesn't seem to see things the way I do at 33, and my suggestions weren't much appreciated. That's when it hit me that I have to do what I can as his mom and figure out what's in my control. I asked him if he liked the idea of a play date with anyone in his class, and he perked right up. Yes, he loved that idea, and had the names of two boys right off the bat.

Resolution # 1 -- do what I can to help my son feel accepted and wanted in his new school from the mom end.

Then this morning I was doing some blog reading, and wouldn't you know I'd find something unexpected. Kimba re-posted something from last April that I'd never seen before, and without even knowing I was looking for it, I found another resolution. Here are the verses she shared, and I think you'll see where this is going right away.

Proverbs 21:9 - Better to live on a corner of the roof than share a house with a quarrelsome wife.
Proverbs 21:19 - Better to live in a desert than with a quarrelsome and ill-tempered wife.

Proverbs 27:15 - A quarrelsome wife is like a constant dripping on a rainy day.

I'm not even going to bother trying to argue that I'm not quarrelsome or ill-tempered sometimes. I'll even add that I've gotten a little bossy here and there, and I think unhelpful sums me up, too. Is that who I want to be?

Resolution #2 - be less of those things, and be someone my husband likes having around!

Oh, and eat less and yell less, of course.


Jamey said...

yep count me in for my old favorites, eat less candy & yell less! oh and my new one Beat my own pathwords score! :0)

Ali said...

I always resolve to lose weight in the new year but sometimes I don't get around to doing something about it until July! I really needed to hear those verses today too:)

KKJ said...

The weight loss resolutions are great in theory however, they do cause some unexpected problems. When I tried to pick up my boys from preschool (it is next to a 24 hr fitness) almost every spot was full in the parking lot. I had to park so far away from the preschool and drag my twinado through the busy parking lot dodging absent minded gym goers frantic for their close parking spot (go figure). At least this will only last for a few more weeks. ;-)

Rebekah said...

"lose weight and yell less" sounds like my plans for this year.

I do want to be a reresentative of how much God loves us. That would make me better person and a better example to others

Dawn said...

I am trying to be more grace-filled in order to be more loving. It really helps with my step-daughters, especially the older one. (I can be pretty quarrelsome too, and my husband and I joke about him living on the corner of the roof... sometimes I tell him to try it out!!)